Wednesday, September 25, 2019
Unfortunately, when she got home, further testing has revealed she has just weeks to live. Lyn is a Christian and knows where she is headed and is at peace but one thing was troubling her.
She had a new book in progress (through a traditional publisher) but it is a few chapters shy of being finished and she is unsure if she can at this point as her strength is quickly leaving her. She asked me to co-author it so I can write the last few chapters and then can take over coordinating the editing and publication with her publisher if she is gone at that time. All the sales are going to an animal rescue in Iowa, where she lives on a farm and payment of the royalties has been set up already.
I am honored she asked me but with a very busy work schedule (federal end of the fiscal year), I probably won't have time for any lengthy blog posts for a couple of weeks.
I'll be on Facebook and will see you all back here in just a few chapters. As always prayers for her are welcome. LBJ
Thursday, September 19, 2019
Wednesday, September 18, 2019
They showed up on the lake one night, visible in the morning, silent in the mist, their shapes nothing at all like what we'd seen before on this small body of water. A few miles away was a large and swiftly flowing river, bringing with it goods from afar. But this little lake was what we, as children, knew. The water had seen canoes, and the occasional raft kids made out of a sheet of plywood and inner tubes, but these little paddle wheel boats were something new.
Dad, of course, wants to go for a ride on one, there at that park at the end of our block where he ran three miles every day after work. I didn’t want to go but I loved my Dad. He and Mom adopted my brother and me late in life and he went out of his way to make life normal, now that Mom had cancer.
So I went with him, like most teenagers, secretly hoping that invisibility was an option but it was not to be. It was Fall, wood smoke from burning leaves drifts out over the little man-made lake in the city park, as people took advantage of the day to be out on the bike paths and walking trails. To make matters worse, he was waving at EVERYONE including other kids my age (invisibility now!) I pretended to be looking up at the birds in the trees, hoping the kids wouldn't notice me, but they did and pointed (forget invisibility, let's go for obliterating lightning bolt). The ride couldn't end soon enough for me.
We were both quiet on the walk home, me because I wanted to be anywhere else, Dad for reasons I didn't understand quite yet. When we got back to the house, Mom was in bed, tears on her face. I'd not seen her cry before and I don't think she expected me to, our arriving home early. The tears encompassed more than pity or pain but rather that inarticulate recognition and despair of that cancer that blazed onto her inescapable earth, its fire, her ashes. I closed the door as he sat down next to her, the whisper of my bare feet on the floor, the only sound I could make
Years passed; the paddle boats disappeared as quietly as they came, with no mention of their passing.
But I have changed, as I realize that his wishing to watch closely and guide, was not based on control. Rather, it was his realizing that I was still light in the burden of the years, not yet possessing the weight of the wisdom that keeps one surefooted on an inescapable path. It was pushing me past the mundane and the limiting, if only briefly, out of that shelter we make for ourselves in times of self-doubt or danger, hiding underneath it as if it's some armor we don without knowing the full extent of what it's protecting us from.
It was his simply wanting me to know joy, while he spent more time with me, even as time ticked its final moments for his first great love.
I look at him and say, “do you remember those paddle boats?” and he hugs me and we laugh. From the trees the chirps of birds erupt into music, the steady staccato of their sound ticking down the hours of one more precious evening with Dad.
Sunday, September 15, 2019
It was a really nice visit though as much as I missed them all. I was able to get Dad out for a couple of short "road trips" with a female friend to help him in and out of the car (something I can't do with the missing meniscus). My cousin Liz, who decorated his assisted living and oversaw the home sale and move did an awesome job. So many photos and mementos of his life in our childhood home to warm him. We also drove past our old house and it's obvious it was sold to a family who cares for it. Lots of pretty updates outside - definitely a house full of love.
So for today, as I catch up with chores and sleep, some funny Tweets from people who think about their dogs like I do.
Sunday, September 8, 2019
UPDATE: Arrived safely and having a nice visit. My husband bought me a little think pad ebook so I could check mail (I don't have a smartphone and didn't want to lug my heavy laptop in a carry-on).
Also, Dad skunked me in cribbage - TWICE. This is just WRONG :-)