Friday, November 27, 2015

Love is an Exploding Cigar

Love is an Exploding Cigar We Willingly Smoke.
 -Lynda Barry
The picture above pretty much sums up when my husband and I met and anyone married to a redhead will relate.
Here he is trying to look serious (and yes, he has blue eyes to match the shirt).

Tonight - since it's been an very busy week in squirrel land, just some general silliness for those of you in a relationship, or navigating the minefields of dating.
Love is an Exploding Cigar We Willingly Smoke -

Lynda Barry

Like Dancing with the Stars, if you ask some women, romance and marriage have their own point system.

Frankly I don't keep track, it's like that whole Weight Watchers thing. My heart goes "kaboop", there's the smell of chocolate or gunpowder in the air and I don't think about points.

However, I am also told that having been raised in a very testosterone laden household (all, including Mom were/are LEO, military, defense or special ops), I don't "think like a girl" .

For example, my husband and I were recently on the couch discussing a book set deep back in history where women pretty much gave birth, toiled in the house and died too young. I said "I just don't think I would have fit in back then" to which he replied "LB., back then you would have been burned at the stake as a witch". 

That actually made me smile.

But today at work some male buddies were talking about the female "point system", totally in the dark as to why some things they did made their spouses go from all happy and warm and "look my clothes fell off" to a a "fine" and a door slam. "Just what is this whole keeping points thing", they asked?

So, in another installment of  romance tips here is the point system as we know it.


You make the bed (+1)

You make the bed, but forget the matching useless pillow shams (-1)

You cover the rumpled sheets with that nice tarp you brought Bambi home after deer hunting so the blood stains will dry out (-100)


You make a special trip to the store when she's not feeling well and buy her something she needs (+1)

It's a girly product such as nail polish (+2)

It's raining (+10)

You return without the item but with this month's issue of Big Racks. (-10)

It's not a magazine about hunting (-300)


You check out a suspicious noise at night (+1)

You check out a suspicious noise, and its the wind (0)

You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)

You fling your shoe at it - hitting it soundly (+10)

It's her cat (-50)


You stay by her side the entire party (0)

You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with another friend (-2)

Named Trixi (-10)

Trixi is a professional stripper (-50)

Trixi is showing off her new implants (-200)


You take her out to dinner (+2)

You take her out to dinner and it's not the flaming chicken wing place or a sports bar (+3)

Okay, it involves flaming chicken wings(-2)

and sports (-3)

And it's all you can eat night (-3)

It's a flaming chicken wing place, it's all you can eat night, your face is painted the colors of your favorite team and the gift you got her is a "We're No. 1" giant foam finger (-200)


You take her to a movie (+1)

You take her to a movie she likes (+3)

You take her to a movie you hate (+6)

You take her to a movie you like (-2)

It's called 'Mutant Zombie Hookers" (-8)

You lied and said it was about kittens and starred Julia Roberts (-25)


She asks, "Does this make me look fat?" (-5)
Sorry guys - You lose points just by playing

You hesitate in responding (-10)

You reply "Not as much as what you wore to work today?" (-35)

Any other response (-20)


When she's had a bad day at work, you listen, pour her a glass of wine and give her a hug. (+4)

You listen, through two glasses of wine and a little whining. (+50)

All while you are missing Top Gear. (+200)

Which you are able to watch if you turn your head just so and pretend to focus on her face as you look past her into the living room, until she catches you. (-200)

So now you know what the point system is. But trust me gentlemen if you find the right woman you won't have to worry so much about that. For in a truly good relationship it's not about points.
Unless animals are involved.  If you love and care for animals -  it's serious bonus points.


  1. Hahahahaha this is great!!!
    Also, I would have been a witch, but most likely not burned. Ye witches have skills.

  2. Very funny but I think most men would still be confused. Oh, that was mom who made me write that!

    Your Pals,

    Murphy & Stanley

  3. OH MY Cats Abby your mom has thoroughly entertained my mom with this post.
    The peeps have a new wine to try this weekend 'SeaGlass'. Everybuddy snuggle and enjoy your weekend together. It has been beautiful in Dixie but I'm sure that will end soon.
    Hugs madi your bfff and Mom
    PS I don't have an exploding cigar but I do have a carrot full of delish catnip


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